Cut Down On Self-Imposed Stress

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How To Stop Putting Pressure On Yourself!

The past weekend I literally put away my phone, books and laptop and I intentionally focused on playing with my kids and listening to their endless stories. We took a few pictures and enjoyed some quality time with together. I’m telling you, on Sunday evening I was feeling so Light and relaxed than ever before.

At times, life can leave you feeling like you are carrying a very heavy load on your shoulders. Pressure can really weigh you down if left unattended.

I do not know about you, but I perform effectively when I work under less pressure. It becomes easier for me to focus on what I am doing without second-guessing or holding myself back.

Just like most of the problems in our lives, most of the pressure we feel is mostly in our minds and we can actually do a lot to relieve ourselves of the pressure before it wears us out.

***Here are a few things we can do to help ourselves get rid of pressure!

Maintain a Balance

It is crucial to find a balance between being a hard worker and having a type A personality. Hard work can lead to less stress if it translates into greater resources and a sense of accomplishment. On the other hand. while someone with a Type A personality is considered to be outgoing, ambitious, rigidly organized, highly status-conscious, impatient, anxious, proactive, and concerned with time management, their personality can can be hard on your mental and physical health, as well as your relationships.

People with Type A personalities are often high-achieving “workaholics (Wikipedia). It may not be easy to change your personality, but you can work toward softening the edges and shift your focus toward being more relaxed, and that can make all the difference.

Stop Listening To People Too Much

It’s granted! Everybody’s got something to say about what you do. People you know, people you love, people you do not like and even people you’ve never met. They tell you what to do, what to think, what you do right or wrong. How to be better, live your life, and further your career.

Even though a good advice is always helpful, over-worrying about what people think and/or getting validation from them will not do you any good. If you spend too much time and energy focusing on these things you may be heading down a pretty harmful road because you will always get mixed guidance from different people and this will leave you even more confused than ever. Remember, you are the only person who knows what works well for you as well as what is best for you. So, take a step back and listen to yourself, your dreams and desires and draw everything from that point

Accept your Weakness And Everyone Else’s

Give yourself a break. Perfectionism is pretty pointless. It’s just you putting unnecessary pressure on yourself and thereby reducing your ability to do excellent work. You can also relieve stress by giving everyone else a break as well–don’t take things too personally, don’t hold onto grudges, and try to see the best in people by understanding how things may feel from their perspective. Learn to forgive yourself and others for past mistakes. To lighten up, you can try outdoor activities more often, and avoid a busy schedule.

Unrealistic Expectations

Whether these expectations come from themselves or overbearing parents, Most people experience a lot of pressure to succeed. Success looks different for everyone, but it’s not out of bounds to say many view it as being financially stable, home owning and establishing a family.

Your expectations, more than anything else, determine your reality. When it comes to achieving your goals, if you don’t believe you’ll succeed, you won’t. It Is that simple. The tricky thing about your expectations is that they impact other people too. the real truth is that nothing is ever perfect, opportunities will not just come knocking – You have to hunt for them. Many successful people started small and made mistakes along the way. Success is more of a journey than a destination and happiness should not be waited for, you need to appreciate every little moment of the climb to the top by building on your relationships and balancing work/personal life.

Social Media and Technology

It is pretty well-known that social media is having a negative impact on our mental health. With our technology usage ramping up, mindfulness about the effects social media can have on our state of mind is becoming more imperative. For many young people, social media has become a very important feature, from Facebook to Youtube to Instagram, and the list is endless with even more upcoming social media platforms.

Social media has a tangible effect on one’s self-image and thoughts. A certain pressure materialises from viewing the seemingly seamless lives of these online celebrities. People end up comparing their lives and are subsequently left feeling inadequate.  Seeing your peers celebrate and live glamorous lives can easily trap you and leave you with FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out).

Even though social media can be a safe place for those without offline support systems, it is a double-edged sword. You’re always in touch with strangers who are emboldened to say or do anything behind a screen. Cyberbullying and harassment are prevalent, experiencing online antagonism. And with millennials’ connection to technology, it’s not as easy as turning off a device and walking away. The mental and emotional scars from digital harassment are long-lasting.

So it is beneficial to step away from social media once in a while and develop your very own grounded identity away from it. Be happy and content with who and what you are while gradually working on achieving your goals at a desirable pace.


It is not easy to stop putting pressure on yourself. You might even be afraid if you relax a bit, things will fall apart or that you will miss out on something. But putting less pressure on yourself can be key to feeling better and living a better life. It might even help you strengthen relationships that you abandon when you are forever working on something. If you’re struggling to let go, consider reaching out for professional help. Talking to a therapist may help you put less pressure on yourself so you can get the most out of life.

Published by Love Amede

I am a God-lover. My biggest dream is to be in a world that is ruled by Godly love. I strive daily to let the love of God in me shine and affect the people around me. I am a dedicated wife and mom of three. My second passion is to see successful marriages and families that are founded on the love of Christ. With a career in Finance and Banking, I have also developed a deep passion to see young people succeeds in their careers and businesses. I am committed to seeing young people adapt to the abrupt changes now happening in the world as long as developing independent successful businesses.

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